Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex to My Mum)

James Barr: I’m Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex To My Mum)

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Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex to My Mum) is a vulnerable piece of stand up comedy about trauma and domestic violence. In his comedy hour, James Barr explained how he had to kiss many, many, many frogs, before he found his boyfriend. Through his honesty and openness, James creates a rapport with his audience. Throughout the show James shares a spectrum of intimate moments, from deeply joyful occasions, to moments that echo with shame and anger.

James notes early on in his set that Colleen, his mum, asked if he was sure he was gay when he first came out to her. This was after she made sure no neighbours could hear their conversation. James returns to the opinions and quirks of Colleen periodically throughout the show. In particular, Colleen’s thoughts and reflections on James’ partner continuously resurfaces. James explains, Colleen liked his boyfriend.

 

 

James sweetly described how he met his boyfriend, and vulnerably shares the start of their love story. He laughs at the heteronormativity of being in a committed long-term relationship. James then somberly notes that 1 in 3 queer people experience domestic violence. He asks the audience “How do you tell off a violent person for being violent?” Very quickly James pulls the audience in, creating tension as he describes a more dangerous version of his boyfriend. James builds and breaks the tension with honesty and vulnerability.

James continues the show, sharing how shame and anger dominated his relationship, and slowly took control of his life. James stated that he couldn’t recall the first time his boyfriend hit him, but he remembered the first time his boyfriend attacked the dog. James confessed, “I told myself I deserved it. A dog doesn’t deserve it.” The complexities of abuse are difficult to pinpoint, but James highlights how little moments broke him down, until his sense of self was erased.

James finishes his set with an explanation of why he wrote this show. Why he shared this experience, opened himself up and become so vulnerable to a faceless audience. This show requires a profound sense of bravery, and James was inspired by a nurse he met who left an abusive partner. Hearing her talk about leaving, James understood what he hadn’t until that point. That sharing stories of abuse, highlighting the bravery of the people who leave, can inspire others to do the same. James noted that it was easy to stay with his boyfriend, but it was the story from the nurse that gave him the bravery to leave.

To book tickets to James Barr: I’m Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex To My Mum), please visit https://adelaidefringe.com.au/fringetix/james-barr-sorry-i-hurt-your-son-said-my-ex-to-my-mum-af2026.

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A Twist of Fate

A Twist of Fate

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As someone who has a love for the unusual (think Black Mirror, Supernatural, The X-Files), when this show landed in my inbox, I immediately jumped at the chance to see it. A Twist of Fate was advertised as ‘4 short plays, 4 devastating twists’ and I ouldn’t help but wonder if this series of plays lives up to the shows I so loved? Shows that provided such comfort to my younger self?

So, entering the Motley Bauhaus, surrounded by bricks and nestled in an old theatre seat far comfier than those of today, I waited. And in succession I watched Bestow, Mr Moore Wants Less, Mr Id and Possession.

Each of these plays made me either cackle in delight, widen my eyes or, pleasantly, a mixture of both!

Bestow had an infectious sense of comedy, of power, of understanding how to mix both the unusual and the highly relatable into one. I saw myself in all the characters and was totally hooked through each scare and each comedic beat.

Mr Id had more energy than a toddler after 3 lolly bags and I must give a commendation to Liliana Braumberger who played the title character for solidly keeping this energy. This was a play of moral dilemmas, sponsorships (that became increasingly more silly) and heart.

 

 

Possession was both innocent and curious, in a way that makes you almost feel pity for the title character. This is, of course, until the end twist. I swear I heard jaws drop to the floor and I really commend Kate Weston on holding the stage presence of the most delightful (and perhaps most twisted) little girl I have ever seen.

However, my favourite of the plays was Mr Moore Wants Less. Each scene, each character, each ridiculous scenario knew how wild it was and revelled in it. It also caused me to think, in the best way possible and genuinely felt both heartwarming and completely bonkers. This is one of my favourite combinations and was beautifully presented on stage.

As the Producer of Scary Goats Theatre, Chloe Towan played host to this tremendous piece of stage work. Towan was invested, intrigued and played the perfect disturbing narrator. It’s also a delight to see a company that works with many people in many roles. No-one really wears one hat. Each person played a significant role (if not multiple roles) in putting on a show that was unsettling, thought provoking and giggle-inducing in writing, acting, directing and more.

This show created not only a sense of community, but also a sense of beauty. And if this is the future of Melbourne Independent Theatre, then I cannot wait to see more. This show knew what it was, how to deliver and how to make the most fun out of it all. So, did it meet my expectations? No, it fully exceeded them. And maybe, just maybe that’s my own Twist of Fate….

To book tickets to A Twist of Fate, please visit https://linktr.ee/scarygoatstheatre.

Photographer: Kieran McNamara

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Goofy, Gay and Gorgeous! A Fun-Filled Hour!

Purple Is The Gayest Colour

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The Substation is HARD to find initially! It’s a little bunker in the ground, opposite Qtopia and next to The Oxford Hotel. Rainbows surround the road and path. You’re here, and it’s delightfully queer.

We headed down into the intimate space, where Alayne welcomed everyone in a pastel purple beret, cute purple cardigan with daisies, purple shorts and purple socks. Everyone in this tiny space was put at ease when she greeted us with “Don’t worry, I don’t do crowd work!”. Nevertheless, my plus one made for the last row.

It’s a cool venue with concrete walls covered in artful graffiti. It was also literally very cool due to the vents, so be aware of that! Give yourself time to run over to the Oxford for a toilet stop prior too!

Purple Is The Gayest Colour is a one-woman stand-up act performed by Alayne Dick, yes it’s her real surname, yes she uses it to her advantage! Alayne had already set a comfortable tone with the initial welcome, then commenced with a flamboyant stadium star entry. It was fun, quirky and cutesy, which sums up Alayne quite well.

 

 

Stand-up takes an epic amount of guts. I love to consume it, I would be terrified to do it myself. Alayne leans into the awkwardness of it. This was mostly funny and endearing, but occasionally it felt like she would make up for not being sure if the joke would land, by quickly getting to the next one and that didn’t work every time.

I do watch a lot of stand-up and I am a neuro-divergent queer person, as is Alayne, so most of her work was relatable on that level. Some of it was a bit too silly, even for me, but I was laughing most of the time. She has developed comedic physical characterisation, stage presence and movement very well and she executed great use of the “call-back”, those got big laughs every time. The audience was definitely engaged and along for the ride.

I loved her authenticity, vulnerability and heart, and I found it to be a really great set, with only a few issues of confidence. Another one of these being ending with a “…and that’s the show!” which felt a little bit too sedate and broke the magic too quickly. A classic “You’ve been a great crowd!” or similar would have worked better.

As I said, I love stand up comedy, and I am aware it takes courage and vulnerability, and it can be incredibly hard to meet that challenge, especially repeatedly. I admire her work and I believe that as her confidence grows and she continues to back herself, the sky’s the limit. I look forward to seeing her again.

To book tickets to Purple Is The Gayest Colour, please visit https://events.humanitix.com/purple-is-the-gayest-colour-kfd8u4jl.

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A Darkly Hilarious Piece About A Pervasive Reality

What Of It

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The bass is pumping on “Bitch Better Have My Money” as we enter The Old Fitz Theatre. Courtney Cavallaro, Emma Wright and Rebecca Sgouros are lounging around dressed like “bruvs”, just doing their thing, as the audience gets seated. The set is a basic youth hangout with a dated fridge and a futon, a six-pack of beer atop the fridge and a poster about COVID and some sanitiser on the bench. These items suggest the era to be somewhere around 2020, backed up by the mention of the “end of the world in three days” that comes soon after the show commences.

Rebecca Sgouros opens with a powerful and poetic monologue, hitting beats with poignant pauses. At times, she seems to be staring directly at you as she presents a moralistic challenge or subversive view. It’s unsettling and awe-inspiring at once. When she finishes, the lights and sound perfectly match her integration with the rest of her crew, as they start their wolf-pack bonding ritual before breaking into a dance that is aptly performed to a song with repeated lyric “Bonkers”.

I hate spoilers, so I wasn’t aware in advance that this was a gender-flip piece, but it became clear very quickly. Rebecca’s character, Cory, is the leader of the “pack”. The self-referred “dogs” are always on the hunt, always looking to get their “clit wet”. They engage in “locker room talk” while pushing and shoving and one-upping each other. They launch into discussing the news that the world is possibly ending in three days and discover that seventeen-year-old “Luck” is still a virgin. Of course, this won’t do.

 

 

Cory is the ringleader, getting the new blood to do her dirty work. Daks (Emma Wright) is the beating heart of the crew, who is torn between being a “real woman” and her clear conflict in the face of these societal norms, as well as a protective urge towards the newcomer, Luck. After more of their barking, growling dirty talk they get their “Big Clit Energy” on and venture out to cause a ruckus cos girls be girls, right?

The dog-pack motif paired with the gender-flip highlights the preposterous nature of the patriarchy and the norms we accept and allow as a society. The banter between them echoes that we’ve heard too many times when it comes to males, and underscores the impact on young boys as they develop a sense of self and what it means to be a man. Rebecca’s narrative, told through the shifting power dynamics of the triad and the exceptional transitions between scenes, is punctuated by the lights, sound and ensemble work between the players. It’s pure genius that leaves no stone unturned.

Every line has a beat, with clever use of prose and layering. These three execute this seamlessly, which can only be attributed to a strong connection, workshopping and partnership in the background. Each of these incredible actors has their own individual moments of wrenching our hearts, among all the nuance of their keeping up appearances and delivering comedic lines to a full house of raucous laughter… all without breaking character.

It’s a darkly hilarious piece about a pervasive reality, and it tells a tragic tale in a truly remarkable way.

It’s powerful and entertaining, and not to be missed.

To book tickets to What Of It, please visit https://www.oldfitztheatre.com.au/what-of-it.

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